Here are the money thoughts that are swirling around my head these days:
I need to find a job. My wife needs to find a job. We need to move. We need to find a house that we can afford.
No big deal, eh? It’s a very weird transitional place for us. A year from now, we both hopefully will have good-paying jobs and be making double what we’re earning now, and be living near one of our families. It’s the like the calm before the storm. I know that everything will work out in the end, but I still can’t stop worrying about it now and then.
Both my wife and me moved from a small shitty town to a major city. We are now making 100% more each in terms of salary. Just have the confidence and fake your experience and u will do great!
Are you going to be staying in the Portland area? Or are you two thinking of heading east? I wish you two the best of luck in everything. Be sure to keep blogging! ๐
Come hang out in Austin, it will blow your mind. Now that Highway 45 is finished, traffic is awesome. There’s IT jobs, too.
Having this blog will surely help you stay on track with your plans. But a wish of good luck won’t hurt right? So, good luck! ๐
I hear yah, I have been worrying about money lately also. Things tend to work themselves out. We are right in the middle of buying and selling a house and my imagination sometimes gets the best of me. Many times we worry about the wrong things that are many times out of our control. We can’t control people, places, or things, just our own decisions. Hang in there.
Florida is a great place to me ๐
East or West, undecided. Moving near one set of parents/family is the main goal.
Austin is a great city, I spent part of my childhood there. No family there anymore though. I may just end up in Florida, I do have family there ๐
Some people have the gift of not over-analyzing. I am not one of those people! Thanks for the well wishes ๐
i thought you’r wife is working right now, and you’r at school and working. And, your money is working everyday in the hands of ING, emigrant, presidential bank, and what other banks accounts do you 2 have?? You dont “really” need to buy a house, do you? Renting can still be good… just imagine that you and wife are saving a bundle by renting either a 1br or 2br apartment together, versus renting a 1br or even a studio by yourself!!! But, i know the feeling of wanting something that you can say is yours (or your lenders’.)
It’s all about time horizon, we plan to stay there for a very, very long time ๐
I hear you are in the Portland area, us too, wish you the best wherever you go.
Portland is a nice city.
Good luck. Things will work out!
Good luck! You’ll weather this out just fine. Think of the opportunities and not the obstacles. When you do that, problems all seem to fall away.
I’m actually thinking of moving to Portland. Is the average pay in Portland really that bad?
Why do you want to move near family? I promise you will have more problems living near family than away. Being away from family forces you to grow up, be independent and solve your own problems.
hmm…i didn’t know you were moving or planning on buying a house. Good luck with both. It’s good to be closed to one of the families. Free babysitting in the future right?hehe…As far as buying a house, do your research…there are many ways with getting away from fees and closing costs.
PDX is a pretty place but consider moving to the midwest. “Fly over country!”: Iowa, Missouri, Minnesota…they’re all inexpensive places to live, we don’t worry about terrorism attacks, traffic isn’t an issue, renting or buying, we’ve got lots of choices! Like Grant stated, living near family isn’t all its cracked up to be. When you are just down the road, family can be dependent on you, maybe too much. Blessings, BJ
If you are really stressed about the future, you might try writing down what you want as goals (and then subdivide into small bite-sized chunks); this helps clear my mind. If I’ve written it down, it doesn’t rattle around in my head as much. Also there’s this great self-help book (seriously) “The Feeling Good Handbook”, which is very scientific, highly specific, and not at all lame. It gives you all kinds of ways to walk yourself through things that make you stressed/etc. I don’t have the book on hand, but one suggestion that I remember is: try to imagine somebody else (a friend) told you about the same problem, what would you say to them? Chances are you’d tell them things aren’t so bad, they are doing great, etc. Then try telling yourself the same things? Oh, and props to you for wanting to live near family. Honestly it’s worth a little suffering because you will be there for each other, which is great. And hopefully there will be a little mymoneyblog junior in your future!
Actually, just writing out has helped. I plan to refer back to this post in one year with a laugh ๐
I think you’ve chosen a great time to buy a house. No more crazy bidding wars — prices are really going down for once! I see bargains in my neighborhood recently that I haven’t seen in about 3 years. my own preference having gone through the mill fixing up an old money pit would be to try not to do that again! It’s been 7 years and we are still fixing up stuff and it’s lost it’s pizzazz. I wish we bought something that was in better condition to begin with. Happy House Hunting!